Sexy Seams

A classic look that should be part of every lingerie drawer back-seams evoke a time when stockings and pantyhose were more of a feminine staple than fashion statement — and leg worship was in it's golden-age.

Heel and back-seam hosiery features folded over, reinforced toes, footbeds and heels that meet at seams just above the ankle. There are several variations on the heel style, but the two most common are the Cuban (which squares off at the seam) and the French or "point heel" (which tapers into the seam). Both the Cuban and French heel are available in contrasting and tone-on-tone styles in a variety of colors. Contrasting seams that mimic the look of vintage "fully fashioned" knit stockings visually lengthen the leg and invite the eye to travel up. Subtler combinations are more appropriate for casual wear. 

Expert tip: when seamed stockings are paired with garter belts, the back-seam should be lined up with, and visually carried through by, the garter, traveling up onto the curve of the derrière.

DIY Brief Harness

Do try this at home: a brief style strap-on harness anyone can make.

Strapped for cash? You can do this!

Strapped for cash? You can do this!

Though it's not exactly the same as what you'll get from a store, this idea for a DIY full brief harness is a pretty nifty way to strap-on on a budget. All you need is a snug fitting pair of briefs, a rubber o-ring, and some basic sewing supplies. Add an o-ring compatible dong and you're ready to rock! Could there be a cooler rainy day craft project? We think not.

Illustrator Isabella Rotman explains the process in a beautiful comic on Oh Joy Sex Toy:

Abrasion Play

The humble hair brush: it also spanks and abrades!

The humble hair brush: it also spanks and abrades!

A slightly different twist on rough sex.

"#BDSM 101 – Abraison [sic] Play – #edgeplay" by Christina Mandara was originally published on

What is BDSM abrasion play? 

It’s using something rough in order to ‘wake up’ and sensitize the skin. When you consider that the skin is the largest organ upon our bodies, and typically in a BDSM scene you’ll be using only a tiny portion of this for your pain/pleasure play – it’s fair to say you might be missing out.

What is used in BDSM abrasion?

It’s not as mean as it sounds. You can start off with something as innocent as a hairbrush and if you use this over your volunteer’s bottom again and again – eventually it’s going to get very sensitive. If you keep going, just a hot breath or a single, light fingernail trail will have your sub jumping up like’s she’s been shot.

So, start from the beginning and work your way upwards. Bristle brushes, hair brushes, scrub brushes, emery boards, scourers, wire wool and sandpaper have all been used in abrasion play to redden and heighten the sensation of feeling in the flesh. Whilst only the masochists among you are going to head to the DIY store for the sandpaper and scourers, abrasion with a softly textured bristle brush can be exquisite. The build-up to sensation is just part of the fun.

If you’re going the whole hog and using some of the more ‘sterner’ implements, then your sub should be aware that you are probably going to leave marks upon him/her. Subs are usually very proud of their marks and cherish them as a constant reminder of your affection – but if you’re going to a family do and you’re wearing a spaghetti strap top – it’s probably not the best of things to do the night before the party.

Abrasion Play – Scene Ideas?

  • A soft, gentle awakening of the skin with a hairbrush before a spot of wax play?
  • Use the fine side of an emery board upon a pair of ass cheeks before bestowing them some loving attention with a gentle flogging, perhaps?

However you play, make sure it’s SSC and that you have your first aid kit handy, just in case. Remember that abrasion play can carry a risk of bleeding – so bear this mind and wear gloves to avoid the risk of contracting HIV or other STD’s.

Have fun ;)

Hybrid Lubricant

Hybrid lubricants combine the best of silicone and water-based formulas producing super-slick, long lasting products that are non-staining and easy to clean up.

Maybe you can have it all!

Silicone lubricants are great because they’re super-slick and last forever… but the clean up! Ugh! Water-based lubricants clean up in a snap, but dry out quickly (which means you have to add water or reapply) and can feel tacky.

What’s a person facing unwanted friction to do? Enter Hybrid lube. Though still not quite as slick as pure silicone, hybrid lubricants are a definite step up from water-based products in terms of staying power and feel, and are generally much easier to clean up.

A few things to keep in mind:

Unlike pure silicone, hybrids are not water-proof, so for bath tub sex, silicone is still the way to go; and like silicone, hybrid products should not be used with toys made from silicone without doing spot test first.

Hybrid brands you might try: Jo Hybrid, Wet Synergy, Encounter Silk