Why Rabbits Rule

The "rabbit" vibrator: a thirty year old design that's still hard to beat.

 This rabbit is cute, easy going and very good at his job.

This rabbit is cute, easy going and very good at his job.

Sex toy designs have exploded in variety and novelty since the original rabbit's debut in Japan in 1984, but the rabbit (and it's countless variations) still remain the most popular vibrator design ever. Anna Lynn from Kinkly.com takes a look at 5 reasons for the rabbit design's remarkable success.

1. They’re Double the Fun
OK, folks, here’s a little lesson on female anatomy: There are two, count 'em two, truly explosive female hot spots: the clitoris and the G-spot. Rabbit vibes can stimulate both at the same time. At the very least, a rabbit vibe will provide penetration, which many women enjoy, along with clitoral stimulation. There are clitoral vibrators and penetrative vibrators. Then there are rabbits. When you buy a rabbit, it’s a bit like getting two for one.


2. They’re Beginner Friendly
When rabbit vibes first appeared on the scene, one of the really appealing things about them for many people is that they looked, cute and cuddly and came in pastel colors. At the time, most of the other sex toys available were, well, dongs. Big, veiny dongs. We’ve got nothing against them, but they aren’t for everyone. Plus, they sort of imply that a sex toy is a replacement penis or, in other words, a replacement for sex with a real, live person. Which it isn’t, rabbit or not. In terms of vibrators, rabbits tend to be easy to use, they tend to have a good range of vibration settings and you can get one relatively inexpensively. If you’re just getting started with dual stimulation, a rabbit’s the classic pick. If you find that penetration isn’t your thing, you can even flip the vibe around and use the rabbit ears as a clitoral stimulator.


3. Rabbit Ears!
Speaking of rabbit ears, they aren’t just cute (although they are pretty cute), they’re designed to stimulate either side of the clitoris. That’s an important point for many users. The clitoris itself can be pretty touchy - very touchy for some. Introducing vibration indirectly from both sides can be more pleasurable than direct stimulation, and helps spread those vibrations around the vulva, something many vibrators don’t do. For those who like more direct clitoral pressure, there are many newer rabbit-style vibrators (like the LELO Ina) that provide that too. (Discover some amazing facts about female anatomy in Holy Clit, Batman! 9 Amazing Facts About the Clitoris.)


4. Options, Buttons and Doo Dads Galore
Because rabbit vibrators are so recognizable and so popular, they come with all kinds of features. That means plenty of options to suit your individual anatomy and preferences. Rabbits tends to come in three main shapes: phallic, G-spot and modern. The phallic shape is the more traditional rabbit most people are familiar with, while the G-spot shape offers more of a curve for better G-spot stimulation. More modern versions of the rabbit are more ergonomically designed and tend to replace the traditional rabbit ears with a single, pinpoint stimulator. Everyone’s body is different. Everyone’s preferences are different. Rabbit vibrators offer enough choices to please just about everyone.


5. It’s a Riot
Rabbit vibrators don’t take themselves too seriously. They’re bright and they’re silly, and some even have features like rotating shafts and multicolored beads. Add that little rabbit bowing reverently with its quivering ears and it’s hard to know whether to orgasm ... or giggle. And while the more modern "rabbit-style" vibrators have taken their figures more seriously, there’s something to be said for the old-fashioned rabbit. After all, isn’t getting off supposed to be fun?

From "5 Reasons Why Rabbit Vibrators Are Still Popular" by Anna Lynn

Sexiest Things About Sex

Sex is sexy right? But why?

Paris Lees from Vice magazine responded to a list of 21 unsexy things about sex (that included jaw lock and wet spots) with a list of hilarious (and sometimes touching) counterpoints. A few of our favorites include:

#2 Socks. When your trusted fuck-buddy stuffs socks inside your mouth and ties your hands behind your back while ramming you like a champ. You people all do that, right?

#6 When you can tell your lover is really into it. When they groan. And it’s genuine. When a guy looks like all his birthdays came at once because he’s here, with you, Paris “Yes it’s really me, and yes I really am like this in real life” Lees, and cumming like a Roman candle.

#11 Watching yourself be a bad girl in the mirror. I really feel like a spit roast is wasted if the person in the middle doesn’t get to see how it looks, ’cause it looks fucking horny.

#14 Looking into someone’s eyes as they cum and watching their pupils dilate. It’s really beautiful.

Read the full list "THE 21 SEXIEST THINGS ABOUT SEX" by Paris Lees on Vice.com

Role-Play the Right Way

Breaking out of old roles isn't always easy.

  Role-play: a simple and fun way to reboot a bedroom that's become predictable.

Role-play: a simple and fun way to reboot a bedroom that's become predictable.

Role-playing (pretending you and/or your partner are different people, in a different place/time) is a commonly overlooked way of adding a new dimension to sex. This could be because many people find the idea of playing pretend more awkward than sexy. Role-playing doesn’t have to be complicated or require any acting skills, but getting into a role certainly doesn’t come naturally to everyone. Adriana Velez from the Stir consulted with three experts on how best to get started with role-playing. Not all of the advice is fit for everyone (for example it focuses solely on male/female partners) but here are a few points we think are worth noting:

It’s okay to laugh 
Many of those hesitant to try it think role-playing sounds too silly to pull off with a straight face. But you don’t have to take role-playing seriously to be aroused by it; in fact, lightening up and having a little fun is part of the point!

From Sexologist Dr. Kat Van Kirk:

"A little chuckle here and there is normal," says Kirk. "After all, you are both seeing one another like you never have." Burton agrees. You want to lead with passion, but “work laughter and humor into it." Likewise, don't worry about getting it just right. "Just try to connect with one another," Kirk advises. "Trust that the dialogue will just come to you if you can get over the first couple of opening lines. It’s okay to be nervous. A little bit of nerves just adds to the overall excitement and spontaneity."

It doesn’t have to be complicated
Role-playing a fantasy can be as elaborate or as simple as you and your partner would like. If the thought of pretending to be a totally different person seems too much of a stretch, try something a bit more basic — like a new look. It’s amazing what a wig and a new piece of lingerie can do to make you look (and feel) different. When you feel different, it’s easier to start acting different.

Set a new scene
A change of scenery can spur the imagination — and we’re not talking about going to Paris. Surprise your partner by getting a hotel room, then surprise them again with a new outfit or toy. Arrange to meet after work at a bar or restaurant neither of you has been to — and pretend you don't know each other. Flirt for awhile across the room. New places can help bring out new sides of you and your partner.

Communication is sexy
You might be surprised at the kind of fantasies your parter has. That idea you’re too embarrassed to bring up might be something they think about too. Why not ask?

Beneteau recommends starting by spending some private time fantasizing. "Give yourself permission to look at what turns you on," she says. It could be anything. "Don't get hung up on the 'how' at this point," she says. “Focus on the ‘what.'"

Give it a chance
Anything you’ve never done before is going to feel a little awkward at first. But trying new things with your partner is one of the best ways to rekindle excitement. Remember the nerves you had on your first date? Embarrassment and arousal share a lot of the same wiring — and being embarrassed together can be remarkably good foreplay.

Give it 15 minutes. Kirk recommends sticking to an idea for at least this long. “If by the end it just doesn’t feel right for either of you, perhaps try doing something else, but if it does work, the action will probably go on a lot longer to the desired conclusion — if you know what I mean.”

You can read the full piece “14 Tips for Role-Playing With Your Husband Without Feeling Awkward” by Adriana Velez at thestir.cafemom.com

The Myths of Anal

No, anal is not for everyone. But how do you know if you never try?

 Does the thought of anal sex send you ducking for cover? Maybe it shouldn't.

Does the thought of anal sex send you ducking for cover? Maybe it shouldn't.

In a lot of ways, anal sex is like jogging. Some people swear by it, some people hate it, some people try it out a few times (and don't see what the big deal is) and a lot of people can't imagine why anyone would want to do it ever. For any reason. Ever.

Like jogging, anal sex can hurt if you don't do it right, but it shouldn't hurt at all. Like jogging, the more you practice anal sex, the better you'll get at it — and the more pleasure you'll derive from it. And, the truth is, like jogging, anal sex is ultimately not for everyone. Some people just aren't into it. And that's okay. But how do you know if you don't try? The misconceptions that swirl around anal are probably keeping many people on the side lines who could be enjoying a nice run in the park.

In a piece for Cosmopolitan, clinical sexologist Dr. Kat Van Kirk looks at ten of the biggest misconceptions surrounding the tender passage. The issue of pain understandably takes the top spot:

THE MYTH: It will hurt.
THE TRUTH: Anal sex doesn't have to hurt. It's often just done incorrectly. Many [people] find it incredibly pleasurable, and some even report having orgasms… If you and your partner start slow, work your way into insertion with smaller implements like fingers and sex toys and use plenty of lube, pain will be the last thing on your mind.

Dr. Kirk also advices against expecting anal sex to save a soured sex life (it's good, but it's not that good!):

THE MYTH: Having anal sex will save your sex life.
THE TRUTH: Yes, I have actually heard this in my office more than once. It usually has to do with a couple that has more than once sexual issue, especially a female who might be inhibited about her sexuality and it is getting in the way of her sex life with her partner. Some men behold anal sex as the holy grail and if they can just get their wives and girlfriends to partake then the floodgates (so to speak) about sex would open in general. Those other issues need to be worked out ahead of time and then if and when she feels open to the experience should they approach the subject. If she is just doing it out of fear of losing her relationship, she probably won't enjoy it anyway.

Read the full piece "The 10 Biggest Misconceptions About Anal Sex" by Anna Breslaw on Cosmopolitan.com

Why Bigger is Not Always Better

 Penis size: a little delusion goes a long way

Penis size: a little delusion goes a long way

Funny story: NASA had to change the labels on the sleeves male astronauts use to cover their members while urinating, because too many of them were grabbing the LARGE when what they needed was a MEDIUM or SMALL. And they were getting pee all over the spaceship. 

The solution? Change the labels to LARGE, GIGANTIC and HUMONGOUS. Funny, but also a little sad.

Men (even ones smart enough to be astronauts) are notoriously hung up on how hung they are - but should they be? Sexperts EJ Dickson and Nico Lang from the Daily Dot have at least seven reasons why the answer is no.

Read the full piece on dailydot.com (source link below).